Snatches-of-Bliss-and-Are-You-Freaking-Out-Yet?

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Changed da house,
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and we don't have a fireplace.
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Sunday, October 17, 2004

~ Etiquette Schmetiquette ~

There are a few reasons I try not to read bridal magazines and go to Wedding Fairs.

Apart from feeding the Bridal Monster Within with information regarding the latest fashion in wedding favours, the must-have flowers for a Summer Wedding, and the optimal number of pantone-coordinated bridesmaids one should have in a bridal party, there's also a frightening array of Wedding Dos and Absolute Don'ts. And I feel like a complete idiot when some of our decisions come under Wedding Fall-Flat-On-Your-Face Faux Pas of the Decade, nay, CENTURY. (Yes, one actually said "hundred-year-old etiquette".)

It's hard enough doing a fusion wedding of sorts. I'm wearing a Big White Dress, but I'm having a tea ceremony in the afternoon. Tony refused to see me in any of the gowns I tried on here "because it's bad luck before the wedding day or something", but we're having our formal photos taken in the afternoon prior to the wedding ceremony. The mother of the bride is wearing a kebaya, while the father of the groom is wearing a suit. We're having a spit roast reception, but we're also gonna try and conduct the toast in the typical Chinese, lusty, "YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAM SENG!" motif.

I've occasionally looked up wedding etiquette websites to check if I've unintentionally offended my western counterparts in my inexperience with their wedding culture. Every time I read an article, I come away feeling worse.

Last week's revelation came in the definition of RSVP, which stands for Respondez S'il Vous Plait, or Please Reply. I thus felt like a bit of a dotard for having printed "Please RSVP" in all my out-of-town invites. Please Please Reply. Niiiiice...

Today's valuable insight was how absolutely crass Tony and I have been, because we've printed details of our gift registry INSIDE the wedding invitation itself. What I should have known and done, as any self-respecting, well brought up bride-to-be would, was either to pass the information along by word of mouth, or put such details on a separate piece of paper (preferably vellum, or something equally expensive and chi chi) and insert that into the wedding invite, along with instructions on where to park (oops), a map of the ceremonial grounds (oops) and accommodation, if any (oops, oooooooooops, ooooops).

And here I was this morning, congratulating myself for wisely declining an offer to put up information regarding a Wedding Money Tree in the weekly church newsletter. Yes, that was actually suggested by someone, in all earnestness. Thank goodness I'm the editor for the month and so can regulate that sort of thing.

# posted by Velle | 3:22 pm

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