Snatches-of-Bliss-and-Are-You-Freaking-Out-Yet?

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Changed da house,
Changed da look.

BTW, my bathrobe's usually pink
and we don't have a fireplace.
Other than that,
it's pretty accurate...

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Saturday, July 02, 2005

~ One of the Boring Bits ~

We have a little wooden filing cabinet (just 2 drawers) in the study. Tony's had it for years, but has always kept his things elsewhere. His filing system used to exist primarily in his massive brain, his papers scattered abroad, far and wide.

Well guess what. Now that we're married, the filing system in his brain has suddenly become defunct. Because now I need to know where everything else is kept too. Same goes for my papers, which used to be stored in very specific folders ALL OVER THE STUDY.

So today, we filed everything under a systematic order we both understand. We even made those filing tabs and labelled all the folders. It was immensely tedious and boring but we did dig up some very old stuff on both sides, and did a bit of show and tell. We also found out his baptism date wasn't 12 Sept 1983 like we thought, but 17 Sept 1984.

I really don't like talking about money and serious issues like insurance and tax on most days, but oddly enough, today's filing was my initiative. I don't know if this signals a turn on my side; if I'm beginning to get comfortable with this side of marriage... but taking a hard look at what we have and what we've planned for the rest of our lives was frankly very reassuring.

Packing them away in a filing cabinet, and putting InDesign-designed labels on everything also went a long way in satisfying the closet anal-retentive side of me.

I had a little chat with someone today about how Tony and I have been busy these few months essentially getting the house and money stuff in order... and she told me that she's been married exactly 12.5 years today, and she and her husband have never written a will. They have three children.

And it struck me right then how every couple is so different. Because for these past six months, I've been functioning under the belief that I was being a real slackard of a wife as far as talking about finances go. That if we hadn't sorted this out by the sixth month into marriage, we were really dragging our feet on this. I think I even believed that every modern newlywed had sorted this stuff out even before they got married. And I don't know why Tony rushes these things, but I was trying to run along beside him to nail these issues once.and.for.all.

And then I find out that couples live almost 13 years and 3 children later without so much as a will deciding who was gonna have their children should they both get hit by lightning (or a truck) tomorrow.

Perspective. Wonderful Comfort. I feel less ineffectual and childish now.

I'm glad we did the filing today.

# posted by Velle | 7:58 pm

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